There is a well adjusted, normal child. He is sitting at his desk, coloring in a book. This child’s mother says “I’m going to the store and I’m in a hurry so this time you can’t come.” He says “Fine” and goes back to coloring.
There is another child. Her mother is also going to the store and says to her “I’m going to the store, this time you can’t come, I’m going to be going to a work party after.” The child gets alarmed, and says “Please can I come?” Mom says no. The child is now upset, and tells her mom that she’ll be really good if her mom takes her. Mom still says no. The child is now agitated and upset and runs over to her mom and begs to be take to the store. Then she wraps herself around her mother’s leg and will not let her mother leave. This is an abandoned child.
How do you heal the abandoned child? How do you heal the hurt, the fear, the terror of abandonment?
Well I did a search on “How to heal abandonment issues?” and here is the link to the search: https://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=how%20to%20heal%20abandonment%20issuesand I got many articles, a few look very interesting like two below: 1) https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-many-faces-addiction/201006/understanding-the-pain-abandonment 2) http://www.outerchild.net/book/export/html/5 and
Of course I will be going to my therapist and talking to her about all this as soon as I get back to Louisville.
I will blog about the process. Stay tuned. Same Bat Channel, same Bat time.
And Zumba helps inordinately